Sunday, December 19, 2010

Relationship Homicide

Sometimes, when I look around at the people who are important to my life in this moment, I am saddened. There are faces missing that, in my naivete, I somehow envisioned would always be there.

These people haven't been taken from me by physical death, but by a self-imposed relationship-death. These are situations where one or the other of us have chosen to cease communication, thus killing the relationship as thoroughly as if one of us had actually died.

When is it okay to kill a relationship? When that person hurts you? When that person prevents you from being everything you can be? When your respective values are too disparate? When they steal your lunch money? Where do you draw the line?

Sometimes, I wonder if I will regret my decisions, when these people have physically died. I will almost certainly wonder if there was something more I could have done to create a healthy relationship, even in cases where it's painfully clear that the other person doesn't desire a healthy relationship.

It's even more difficult when your reasons for killing a relationship are somewhat selfish. The difference between self-preservation and egotism can sometimes seem so small that it's almost invisible.

I don't have the answer to any of this. I'm still struggling with these issues, but no one reaches the end of their life without regrets. I can only hope that when I reach the end of my life, I will be proud to be associated with each and every important person in my life.

For now, I think I'm well on my way.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Oh shit, guys, I totally identify with a serial killer... D:

...Okay, so it's Dexter. Who /doesn't/ identify with Dexter on some level?

If you haven't seen the season finale of Dexter, you should do so! This season was amazing. There just aren't words. When Rita died last year, I was so pissed off. I thought that the show would go downhill, but I have to admit that I was wrong.

I guess I ought to have something profound to say, but this line from the finale says it better: "They make it look so easy, connecting with other people. It's like no one told them it's the hardest thing in the world."

Someone out there let me know that I'm not the only one on the planet who identifies with a character who is supposed to be a sociopath. Pretty please? :>

Monday, December 6, 2010

Why you shouldn't wait for the holidays to give to charity.

1. Studies have shown that there is only a small correlation between money and happiness. Once your basic needs are taken care of (shelter, food, etc.), having addition money to spend on nonsense does not necessarily make you a lot happier. Ultimately, it has more to do with how you spend your money than how much you have.

2. Studies have shown that giving to charity does correlate with happiness. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be a lot. In one study, as little as $5 spent on another person gave a significant boost in happiness.

3. It’s a tax write-off. Up to 20% of your income can be donated to qualified charities tax-free. Don’t like the way the government is spending your money? Here’s one way to make sure they’re getting less of it.

4. Any society fares best when each individual acts upon what is best for all of society, rather than acting solely upon their own interests. This goes against human nature, but isn’t it worth trying to make the world a better place? If nothing else, our children will thank us for it.

5. The richer you are, the less likely you are to give to charity. Studies have apparently shown that wealthy people who give less are short on empathy and compassion. Now be honest with me… No matter how well off you are, do you really want to live in a world devoid of empathy and compassion?

6. People will like you better. If people like you, they will want to help you out when you need it. This is not a myth. This is how social interaction works. Be good to the people around you, and they will be good to you. And if they aren’t, maybe you should seriously rethink how you choose your friends.

7. Ultimately, it just makes you feel good. And if you’ve got such a load of guilt that you feel the need to create a list of reasons why you shouldn’t be giving to charity, you need that boost more than any of us do.

Friday, December 3, 2010

I want to meet aliens that speak in ridiculously high-pitched voices, dammit...

NASA has finally found life that incorporates arsenic into its DNA structure.

All I want to know is: when do I get to meet helium-based lifeforms?

Wednesday, December 1, 2010


This is why I can't live up north, y'all. White stuff on the ground is just unnatural, okay?